If you want to copy multiple files, keep the permission, and want to exclude multiple files from being copied this can be done with the following code:
tar cp --exclude-from=$EXCLUDE $FROMDIR | (cd $DESTDIR ; tar xpv)
$EXCLUDE contains the file that contains the folders and files that shall be exluded. It can be created and filled with
EXCLUDE="exclude.txt" touch $EXCLUDE echo "$HOME/.kde" >> $EXCLUDE echo "$HOME/.texmf" >> $EXCLUDE echo "$HOME/.cxoffice" >> $EXCLUDE
Other solutions for this problem are possible as well. Especially rsync should be a good candidate.